And in the end, it’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years.”  ~ Abraham Lincoln.

Although our age is increased by one every year… it doesn’t represent our life… it doesn’t represent wisdom either. Therefore… age is just a number that represents how long you have been alive!

In fact, life is going in a cycle…. just take a look at the months in our calendar… it goes from January to December and then back to January again. Look at the clock we use to measure time… it goes from 1 to 12 and back to 1 again…

It seems like life is going in a linear journey… BUT if we look closer…. it really doesn’t work that way.

I found a great article that talks about this topic… I republish it here for your convenience… Happy Reading….

Shh! Here is an Important Self-Improvement Secret – Life is About Cycles

By Praveen C. Puri

“The water flows, but back into the ocean; The moon sinks, but is even in Heaven.” – Zen Proverb.

How can we apply this teaching to our lives?

This quote deals with the cycles of life. As I have developed mentally and spiritually, I have come to the realization that the secret to success and happiness is to think of life as cycles – not linearly with a start and an end-point. In other words, don’t focus on how the years are going by. Instead, focus on how the months and seasons keep coming and going. This is the way life really works.

Thinking, “2008 and 2009 is gone, we are now in 2010…” is not practical. Instead, it is more helpful and realistic to stay “it’s March – winter is ending, and spring is starting”.

Water flows away, and the moon sets – but they are going somewhere, and they will return. Life has hills and valleys, ups and downs. Roll with the punches.

Weather, fashions, ideas – they all repeat. What is out of style now, will come back. What is hot today, will fade. If you look outside in winter, and see a snow-covered lawn, you can imagine a hot summer day with thick grass and flowers. This situation will occur again. Also, you can visualize that the lawn will become snow covered again.

People try to motivate by saying life is too short – get going. But don’t rush. Life might not be very long in terms of years, but it is packed with repeating opportunities.

Opportunity definitely does not knock only once. It will keep ringing your doorbell, but in slightly different outfits.

What would your life be like if you had the unshakable self-confidence and knowledge to pursue your dreams and passions? To build wealth, financial independence, and satisfying relationships? What if your happiness “baseline” was set so low that normal activities filled you with joy?

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The other day, a friend of mine asked….

What does it mean when people say “Life begins at 40″?

Well… the answer is… it doesn’t mean anything!

To me, it’s just a motivational saying to let you know that it’s NEVER too old to change and improve yourself!

You see, by 40, people expect you to have attained maturity and have gained the wisdom to deal with most situations that life can throw at you. But, unfortunately AGE cannot be used to measure maturity. I have seen many 17 years old boys and girls who are more mature than some 40 years old adults.

So, if you’re 40 and feel the need for reinventing/transforming yourself for the better… then please read on…. Remember it’s NEVER too old to improve yourself….

Reinventing yourself is very important. You will find that there are times in your life where you are going to have to change your life or change yourself in some small way. You will need to consider re-inventing yourself personally, professionally, and also in some of the relationships that you have with others. You will find that there are no rules or principles that you will need to follow in the re-invention, but you should try to make things better or easier for yourself. You will need to do your best to try to re-invent yourself in a positive way.

When it comes to change, you have to learn how to embrace it. You will want to consider the fact that there is a certain amount of expectations and goals that you are going to have to meet for yourself. You will need to consider the fact that there are a lot of wonderful things that you will need to embrace in life, but you will want to keep in mind that your greatest achievement will be in yourself.

Figure out what it is that you need in your life first. Then you need to try and work it out into a plan of action. You also have to figure out where your glass ceiling is. Some people have a “glass ceiling” this is where they can see the top, but feel that they are unable to get there.

The thing is that you are going to try and work things out to the furthest point, but eventually you will have to stop and look at yourself and feel a sense of pride. Self-actualization is very hard to achieve. Some people spend their entire life trying to get to the point of self-actualization.

For you to re-invent yourself you are going to have to consider your strengths and your weaknesses. You will need to work on both so that your weaknesses aren’t really weaknesses and your strengths are stronger than ever.

You will find that only through self-evaluation will you ever be able to find yourself on the correct path to contentment. You will have that with your skills you will be able to stand out above the rest with a little bit of work.

When you re-invent yourself you will need to think about growth in the concern of your spiritual health, physical health, mental health, and also deal with some of your attachments. You will want to make sure that you think about who you are and who you are when in certain areas of your life.

First, you will want to consider the fact that you have many relationships with many important people. You will want to make sure that you do everything you can so that you can make the best possible impression on others, but also show others the new and improved you.

You will be able to achieve a lot of things when you think about using your whole self to accomplish your goals. You will need to think about ways that you can use your body, mind, and soul, so that you can do a complete renovation on yourself. You also have to think about using all of yourself so that you can reach your own stardom and be truly happy. You will also want to consider the fact that your transformation will not happen over night. You will want to keep in mind that there is a lot of time and energy that you are going to have to put in yourself in order to make your goals into something. There are many improvements that you can make, but you are also going to have to evaluate yourself every now and then.

“Do not wish to be anything but what you are, and try to be that perfectly.”  ~St. Francis De Sales.

“Be yourself. There is something that you can do better than any other. Listen to the inward voice and bravely obey that.”  ~Unknown Author.

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love & affection.”  ~Buddha.

A healthy self-esteem is a starting point for a happy life. Unfortunately, when you lack self-esteem, you also lack the ability to reach your true potential. Why? Because your thoughts are truly powerful!

It All Starts With Your Beliefs

Most people have heard the statement, “If you can dream it, you can do it,” but few people actually take it to heart. For some reason big goals seem unattainable and an “I can’t” mentality takes over.

While everyone experiences negative thoughts from time to time, you may need to make an extra effort to get through these challenges. Positive thoughts must be victorious in the end!

Tips For Developing Self-Esteem

Developing a healthy self-esteem doesn’t need to be a difficult task. There are small changes you can make to get yourself on the right track.

Try following these strategies to help you develop a healthy self-esteem:

1. Ignore negativity from others. For some reason, many people get into the habit of putting others down. You know you shouldn’t listen to these people, but sometimes you take what they’re saying to heart. It’s especially hurtful when it’s coming from someone you love.

• Some people will even steer you in the wrong direction because they think they’re doing the right thing. When it comes down to it, you’re the only one that knows yourself and your dreams. You simply can’t let anyone stand in the way!

2. Learn to accept compliments. You might toss off compliments as lies because some people may have ulterior motives. While this might be true, in most cases people are being genuine. After all, most people won’t go out of their way to give you a false compliment.

• Accepting compliments will help you discover what you’re good at and strengthen your self-confidence.

3. Get a life coach. Life coaches are in the business of helping you live your life to its fullest potential. You don’t need to be scared or embarrassed to seek one out. If a life coach doesn’t seem feasible for you, you can look into getting some self-help guides.

• Go online or to a local bookstore to find some relevant workbooks and resources.

4. Use affirmations. Affirmations are great self-esteem boosters because they show your brain what you already know you can achieve. They bring positive energy into the present moment.

• You can read affirmations on the subjects of your choice or you can get into the habit of writing your own affirmations. Nothing can be more targeted to your true feelings than your own words!

5. Avoid comparing yourself to others. It’s easy to get into the habit of comparing yourself negatively to other people. Remind yourself that everyone is unique. You’re equipped with your own set of strengths and weaknesses, so the best thing you can do for yourself is concentrate on developing your own strengths.

Follow Your Dreams

Once you’ve worked on your initial feelings about self worth, it’s time to take a step in the right direction. A part of a healthy self-esteem is having the drive to take action toward your goals.

Have a plan and follow through. If you feel that you’ve improved your self-esteem but then fail to take action towards your dream, it will only be a matter of time before your self-esteem begins to wane again.

When you’re faced with challenges, actively seek solutions. When you do, you’ll soon notice what a positive role your healthy self-esteem plays in your life!

“Memory is a way of holding on to the things you love, the things you are, the things you never want to lose.”  ~Kevin Arnold.

“Memory is deceptive because it is colored by today’s events.”  ~Albert Einstein.

In love longing
I listen to the monk’s bell.
I will never forget you
even for an interval
Short as those between the bell notes.
~Izumi Shikibu.

When you want to strengthen your muscles, you lift weights. If you want to improve the concentration and focus of your mind, then you need to work out and exercise your brain. The correct brain exercises will improve the way your brain works and develop better focus and concentration.

As we age, we may lose the ability to concentrate, but brain exercises can improve concentration even in older people. Brain exercises are excellent tools for people of any age who would like to strengthen their mind!

Here are some great brain exercises that can help you improve memory and concentration:

1. Do some crossword puzzles. Not only are crossword puzzles a lot of fun, but they can help improve your concentration. Relying on your long-term memory and trying to solve tough questions help stimulate the brain.

• Taking only 15 minutes daily to work on crossword puzzles can benefit you.
• To keep a fresh supply of puzzles handy, you can buy a crossword puzzle book, check your daily newspaper, or look online to find them for free.

2. Changing your daily routine challenges your brain to do something that’s outside your comfort zone. This can strengthen your problem solving abilities.

• Consider changing things by taking a different route to work one morning and then finding another on your way home.

3. Try Sudoku puzzles. These are number placement puzzles based on logic. You complete a 9×9 grid so that each row and each column only has numbers that range from 1-9. Within the grid, in each 3×3 block, a number can only be used once. Most definitely challenging!

• These puzzles are often found in daily newspapers, printed books, and online.

4. Eat foods that help your brain. Your brain will stay healthy and function at its best if nourished with nutritious foods.

• Proteins are great for the brain, and may be found in cheeses, meats, fish, and milk.
• Complex carbohydrates are important as well, and these carbs come from fruits, vegetables, and grains.
• The brain needs some fat, so don’t shy away from healthy oils like olive oil or fish oils.
• Eat foods that include omega-3s, such as trout, salmon, and tuna, which are oily fish. Some nuts contain these fats as well and are healthy food for the brain.

5. Start a new hobby. Trying a new hobby is another way to expand your interests and use your brain to learn something new. Being busy and learning new things expand the way the brain thinks and gets you out of a rut.

• Join a local club or take a class at a hobby store or community college.

Challenging yourself and improving brain function is something that any person can do. Young and old alike can enjoy and benefit from these great techniques. Get your whole family in on the fun!

Make just one change today to stimulate your brain. You won’t notice any drastic changes overnight, but with time and practice, eventually you’ll find that you can finish puzzles quicker, solve problems more easily, and enjoy improved concentration and focus.

“Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”  ~ Abraham Lincoln.

“The Constitution only guarantees the American people the right to pursue happiness.  You have to catch it yourself.”  ~ Benjamin Franklin.

“Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.”  ~ Albert Schweitzer.

Life isn’t the sweetest candy. Sometimes, when I feel like the world is just too heavy, I look around and find people who continued to live fascinating and wonderful lives. And then thoughts come popping into my mind like bubbles from nowhere – “How did their life become so adorably sweet? How come they still can manage to laugh and play around despite a busy stressful life?”  Then I pause and observed for awhile… I figured out that maybe, they start to work on a place called ‘self’.

So, how does one become genuinely happy? Step 1 is to love yourself.

My theology professor once said that “loving means accepting.”  To love oneself means to accept that you are not a perfect being, but behind the imperfections must lie a great ounce of courage to be able to discover ways on how to improve your repertoire to recover from our mistakes.

Genuine happiness also pertains to contentment. When you are contented with the job you have, the way you look, with your family, your friends, the place you live in, your car, and all the things you now have – truly, you know the answer to the question “how to be genuinely happy.”

When we discover a small start somewhere from within, that small start will eventually lead to something else, and to something else. But if you keep questioning life lit it has never done you any good, you will never be able to find genuine happiness.

I believe that life is about finding out about right and wrong, trying and failing, wining and losing. These are things that happen as often as you inhale and exhale. Failure, in a person’s life has become as abundant and necessary as air. But this should not hinder us from becoming happy.


How to be genuinely happy in spite all these? I tell you… every time you exert effort to improve the quality of life and your being, whether it is cleaning up your room, helping a friend, taking care of your sick dog, fail on board exams and trying again, life gives you equivalent points for that.

Imagine life as a big score board like those which are used in the NFLs. Every time you take a step forward, you make scoring points. Wouldn’t it be nice to look at that board at the end of each game and think to yourself “Whew! I got a point today. I’m glad I gave it a shot.”, instead of looking at it all blank and murmur “Geez, I didn’t even hit a score today. I wish I had the guts to try out. We could have won!” and then walk away.

Genuine happiness isn’t about driving the hottest Formula 1 car, nor getting the employee of the year award, earning the highest 13th month pay, or beating the sales quota. Sometimes, the most sought after prizes in life doesn’t always go to the fastest, the strongest, the bravest or not even the best. So, how do you become genuinely happy?

Every one has his own definition of ‘happiness’. Happiness for a writer may mean launching as much best selling books as possible. Happiness for a basketball rookie may mean getting the rookie of the year award. Happiness for a beggar may mean a lot of money. Happiness for a business man may mean success.

So, really now, how do we become genuinely happy? Simple. You don’t have to have the best things in this world. Its about doing and making the best out of every single thing. When you find yourself smiling at your own mistake and telling your self “Oh, I’ll do better next time”, you carry with you a flame of strong will power to persevere that may spread out like a brush fire. You possess a willingness to stand up again and try – that will make you a genuinely happy person.

When you learn to accept yourself and your own faults. You pass step 1 in the project “how to become genuinely happy”.For as long as you know how to accept others, you will also be accepted. For as long as you love and know how to love, you will receive love ten folds back.

Again, throw me that same question “how to become genuinely happy?”. I’ll refer you to a friend of mine who strongly quoted- “Most of us know that laughter is the best medicine to life’s aches and pain. But most of us don’t know that the best kind of laughter is laughter over self. Coz then you don’t just become happy… you become free.”

Aѕ уου know, I аm always οח tһе lookout fοr quality information οח Self Improvement аחԁ Empowerment, knowing tһаt such information саח һеƖр improve уουr life fοr tһе better. Today, I came асrοѕѕ a very ɡοοԁ article tһаt discusses аbουt Truth vs Reality аחԁ shares ѕοmе ɡrеаt tips tο һеƖр уου υѕе tһе power οf Truth tο change уουr Reality. Mаkе sure уου check out tһіѕ article аחԁ Ɩеt mе know wһаt уου tһіחk. Yου саח read tһе full article published below fοr уουr convenience….

Truth Vs Reality – Tһе Power οf Knowing tһе Dіffеrеחсе аחԁ Four Keys tο HеƖр Yου Mаkе tһе Change
Bу Ruth Seebeck

AƖƖ truths аrе easy tο understand once tһеу аrе discovered; tһе point іѕ tο discover tһеm. ~ Galileo

Dο уου know wһаt reality іѕ?

Cаח уου tеƖƖ tһе ԁіffеrеחсе between reality аחԁ Truth?

Dο уου want tο experience tһе power οf knowing tһе ԁіffеrеחсе?

Lеt mе share a hard-won life lesson wіtһ уου.

Wе һаԁ fought… once again. Hе left tһе house, ɡοt іח tһе car аחԁ drove away, tires screaming οח tһе driveway. I watched һіm frοm ουr porch аѕ һе careened around tһе corner, probably headed tο tһе neighborhood bar. Tһеrе, һе сουƖԁ һаνе a few beers аחԁ ɡеt ѕοmе sympathy frοm һіѕ friends.

Iח tһе meantime, I sat οח tһе porch floor, head bowed against tһе rails, tears streaming down mу face. WουƖԁ іt еνеr ɡеt аחу better? CουƖԁ wе possibly survive аƖƖ tһе аחɡеr, bitterness аחԁ frustration?

Yου see, mу reality аt tһе time wаѕ חο money, οr חοt enough, anyway. Mу reality wаѕ a husband wһο еіtһеr wouldn’t οr couldn’t find ways tο mаkе more. Mу reality wаѕ a daughter wһο needed ’stuff’, аחԁ tһеrе wаѕ חο way tο ɡеt іt. It felt Ɩіkе mу reality wουƖԁ never change.

Here іѕ wһаt I learned аѕ I sat bawling οח tһе porch tһаt day. I tοƖԁ God-wherever Hе wаѕ-tһаt I сουƖԁ חοt ԁο tһіѕ anymore. I сουƖԁ חοt deal wіtһ tһе strife аחԁ fеаr аחԁ аחɡеr. I tοƖԁ Hіm іח mу οwח crushed, arrogant way, tһаt I wаѕ חοt going tο depend οח mу husband anymore fοr anything. Tһаt іf I wаѕ going tο ɡеt іt-whatever IT wаѕ-tһаt Hе wουƖԁ һаνе tο provide іt. It wаѕ obvious tο mе tһаt mу husband сеrtаіחƖу wouldn’t… οr couldn’t.

Tһаt wаѕ tһе day I bеɡаח tο discover tһе ԁіffеrеחсе between reality аחԁ Truth. Yου see, reality іѕ whatever уου аrе experiencing rіɡһt now іח уουr life. Tһе thing іѕ, reality саח change. Yουr situation today mау bе totally different tomorrow… οr tһе next day. Rich οr brοkе, healthy οr ill, һарру οr sad, аƖƖ tһе physical аחԁ emotional circumstances οf уουr life аrе аѕ changeable аѕ tһе tides.

Truth, οח tһе οtһеr hand, іѕ eternal, unchangeable, аחԁ totally trustworthy. Gravity never stops working. Seasons change. Tһе sun rises аחԁ sets daily. Yου don’t һаνе tο tһіחk аbουt аחу οf those things, tһеу јυѕt аrе. BUT, іf уου learn аbουt tһеm, study tһеm аחԁ рυt tһеіr eternal power tο work іח уουr life, уου саח change уουr circumstances, уουr reality.

Fοr years, people tһουɡһt man сουƖԁ never fƖу. Tһеח early scientists learned аחԁ tested tһе truths οf lift, airflow аחԁ gravity. Tһе Wright Brothers changed man’s reality. Edison developed a light bulb. Columbus sailed tο tһе edge οf tһе world аחԁ beyond, proving іt wasn’t flat. Henry Ford used tһе ‘חеw’ principles οf multiplied effort аחԁ changed manufacturing forever.

AƖƖ οf tһе eternal Truths tһаt science eventually discovers һаνе existed fοr eternity. Tһеу originated іח аחԁ аrе sustained bу Infinite Mind, Eternal Spirit, God.

“Tһаt mау bе аƖƖ well аחԁ ɡοοԁ″, уου ѕау, “bυt һοw ԁοеѕ tһаt knowledge һеƖр mе? I’m dealing wіtһ issues here.” I аm glad уου аѕkеԁ.

Yου саח draw οח tһе power οf Truth tο change уουr reality. Here аrе four steps tο һеƖр уου mаkе tһе change:

1. Eνеrу accomplishment ѕtаrtѕ wіtһ a tһουɡһt. Yου tһіחk, “I ѕһουƖԁ ԁο laundry” ѕο уου ɡеt up аחԁ load tһе washer. If уου һаԁ חοt tһουɡһt οf іt first, іt wουƖԁ חοt һаνе happened. Now, here іѕ wһеrе іt gets іחtеrеѕtіחɡ.

Yου саח THINK οח purpose. Yου саח сһοοѕе tο tһіחk prosperity instead οf lack, health instead οf illness, һарру instead οf sad. Tһе Bible tells υѕ, “Aѕ a man thinketh, ѕο іѕ һе.” If уου constantly tһіחk, “I’m brοkе″, tһаt іѕ exactly wһаt уου wіƖƖ continue tο bе. Hοwеνеr, іf уου learn tһе Truths οf Divine prosperity аחԁ bеɡіח tο claim tһеm аѕ уουr οwח, уου саח change уουr reality.

2. Thinking сrеаtеѕ words. Orville аחԁ Wilbur tοƖԁ everyone wһο wουƖԁ listen tһаt tһеу wουƖԁ fƖу. Tһеу didn’t work аƖƖ day οח tһе airplane, аחԁ later tеƖƖ tһеіr friends, “іt probably won’t work, anyway”. Tһеу focused аƖƖ tһеіr tһουɡһtѕ, words аחԁ energies οח one goal. Yου саח ԁο tһе same.

Don’t pray fοr prosperity, tһеח tеƖƖ уουr friends һοw much уου owe. Don’t pray fοr healing, аחԁ tеƖƖ everyone уου meet аbουt tһе pain іח уουr arm. Bе consistent. If уου саח′t bе consistent, bе qυіеt. It іѕ more powerful tο ѕау nothing, tһаח tο ѕау tһе wrοחɡ thing.

3. Words сrеаtе action. If уου tһіחk аחԁ ѕау, “A hot fudge sundae sounds really ɡοοԁ″, уου аrе probably going tο ɡο ɡеt one. Instead, υѕе уουr tһουɡһtѕ аחԁ words tο change уουr actions. TеƖƖ yourself, “I eat healthy foods аחԁ exercise daily”. Tһеח follow through.

4. Repetition іѕ power. Science tells υѕ іt takes 21 days tο сrеаtе a חеw habit. Tһаt’s bесаυѕе οf tһе power οf repetitive action. Tһаt іѕ һοw уου сrеаtеԁ уουr οƖԁ habits. If уου һаνе tο play computer games аƖƖ night, іt’s bесаυѕе tһаt іѕ wһаt уου һаνе bееח doing consistently over time. Yου саח brеаk tһе power οf negative habits bу CHOOSING tο substitute better tһουɡһtѕ, words аחԁ actions… consistently over time.

Tһаt day οח tһе porch wһеח I tοƖԁ God I wаѕ חοt going tο depend οח mу husband anymore wаѕ аח epiphany fοr mе. Frοm tһаt moment, еνеrу time I ѕtаrt tο ɡеt upset аbουt wһаt I tһіחk һе isn’t doing, I ѕtοр myself. I tеƖƖ myself, “I аm חοt going tһеrе, Lord. I wіƖƖ חοt lose mу peace. I wіƖƖ חοt stress out.” Aחԁ mοѕt οf tһе time, I haven’t.

See һοw simple іt іѕ? I ԁіԁ חοt ѕау, һοwеνеr, tһаt іt wаѕ easy. Life-change never іѕ. Bυt іt іѕ possible. Yου саח change уουr reality wіtһ Truth… one tһουɡһt аt a time.

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Criticism can cut both ways. On one hand, it can improve you but on the other hand, it can also hurt your feeling. Knowing how to deal and accept criticism can be very useful in both your professional and personal lives.

To be able to accept criticism constructively, first you need to know how to differentiate constructive criticism from destructive criticism.

Constructive criticism is intended to improve and make you a better person whereas destructive criticism is used to humiliate you. For example, personal attack is destructive criticism.

When you receive critical comments, whether it’s from your boss, coworkers, family member or friends, take a few minutes to process the information before reacting even if your feelings are hurt. Take a deep breath, and try to figure out why the criticism was delivered.

Even if you think that the criticism is baseless, don’t get defensive or upset, just calmly acknowledge it and leave it at that! You can acknowledge with a response like “I appreciate your inputs” or “You might be right”. There is no point in getting defensive or upset about it. Just treat it as an opinion and it may not be true.

One of the hardest things to do when you’re criticized is to admit that it’s true. You don’t have to be overly apologetic. You can always say, “I’m sorry” or “It’s my mistake” and move on. By admitting fault, you’re taking ownership of the problem and you’re proving that you’re a mature adult.

If you don’t know whether the criticism is true or not, ask the person to provide facts or more information. If it’s your fault, admit it and apologize. Put aside your ego!

If you take criticism to heart, you will feel more hurtful and frustrated, it’s really not worth it. Everyone has different expectations, and a small improvement might be all you need to resolve the criticism.

Always remember that you have a control in your response. You can respond to criticism with anger or calmness. You can use it as motivator to improve yourself. The choice is in your hand.