Genuine Happiness Comes from Within

Life isn’t all roses and the sweetest candy. When you feel that life is going tough, try to look around and find people who continue to live fascinating and wonderful lives. How come they still can manage to laugh and play around despite a busy stressful life?  Then pause and observe for awhile… the place to start pondering is within yourself. So start looking inside instead of outside.

How does one become genuinely happy? Step 1 is to love yourself.

To love oneself means to accept that you are not a perfect being, but behind the imperfections must lie a great ounce of courage to be able to discover ways on how to improve your repertoire to recover from mistakes. When we discover a small start somewhere from within, that small start will eventually lead to something else, and to something else. But if you keep questioning and complaining about life, it’ll never do you any good and you will never be able to find genuine happiness.

Genuine happiness also pertains to contentment. When you are contented with the job you have, the way you look, with your family, your friends, the place you live in, your car, and all the things you now have – truly, you know the answer to the question “how to be genuinely happy.”

I believe that life is about finding out about right and wrong, trying and failing, wining and losing. These are things that happen as often as you inhale and exhale. Failure, in a person’s life has become as abundant and necessary as air. But this should not hinder us from becoming happy.

Imagine life as a big score board like those which are used in the NFLs. Every time you take a step forward, you make scoring points. Wouldn’t it be nice to look at that board at the end of each game and think to yourself  “Whew! I got a point today. I’m glad I gave it a shot.”, instead of looking at it all blank and murmur  “Geez, I didn’t even hit a score today. I wish I had the guts to try out. We could have won!” and then walk away.

Genuine happiness isn’t about driving the expensive car, nor getting the employee of the year award, earning the highest 13th month pay, or beating the sales quota. Sometimes, the most sought after prizes in life doesn’t always go to the fastest, the strongest, the bravest or not even the best. So, how do you become genuinely happy?  Every one has his own definition of ‘happiness’. Happiness for a writer may mean launching as much best selling books as possible. Happiness for a basketball rookie may mean getting the rookie of the year award. Happiness for a beggar may mean a lot of money. Happiness for a business man may mean success.

So, it’s actually really simple to become genuinely happy. You don’t have to have the best things in this world. Its about doing and making the best out of every single thing. When you find yourself smiling at your own mistake and telling your self “ Oh, I’ll do better next time”, you carry with you a flame of strong will power to persevere that may spread out like a bush fire. It’s about enjoying the simple pleasure of life, to enjoy the moments, even how insignificant it may be – that will make you a genuinely happy person.

When you learn to accept yourself and your own faults. You pass step 1 in the project “how to become genuinely happy”.  For as long as you know how to accept others, you will also be accepted. For as long as you love and know how to love, you will receive love ten folds back.

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Words can cut like a sharp knife. If used correctly, it can be empowering, but it can also be very devastating when it’s used in a negative way. I’m sure you’d said something to someone that you wished you hadn’t. The words you use can have great impacts to yourself and others as well. What you say really does matter.

So please always remember NOT to use negative words. You also should not use negative words to yourself like “I’m fat”, “I’m useless”, “I’m an idiot”, etc.. because every word you utter is recorded by your subconcious minds. Try to fill your subconscious with positive words instead as they can help empower your self-esteem.

What you say to yourself over and over again can translate into a belief.  If you keep on utterring to yourself that “you will fail,” then it will become a reality because you are setting up a defeatist attitude.  When you begin a thought or a sentence with a negative word, you’re already starting on a wrong path.

Same thing applies to other people, if you call someone an idiot. The person on the receiving end of the insult may take it to heart even if you apologize later, the word has already been spoken; you can’t take it back.  Words can be used to attack, provoke or inspire and you always have a choice when it comes to using words. Learn to avoid bursting out with negative words. You can control your words if you learn to be patient, always think before you act!  And always remember the old adage, “If you can’t say something nice, then don’t say anything at all.”

It’s important to realize the effects words can have on people, especiall young children.  Children are most vulnerable to words, if you always use unkind or negative words as disciplinary measure for your kids, they will eventually grow up with low self-worth or self-esteem, or even feel their lives are not worth anything.

The next time you speak, think about the words you are about to express.  Choose them wisely when speaking to your peers, friends and cautiously when speaking to children.  Understand that words can positively or negatively affect both your life and someone’s life as well.

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Life coaching basics teaches you different ways to look at Life. In life, we thrive on our successes and the potential for success in life and we dread failure. But, even failing is something you should look at as a bit of a blessing. By failing, you get to learn and by learning you get to grow in many ways. This can prepare you for future success.

Failing can feel pretty lousy of course but there is a positive way to look at it. To fail is to succeed when you learn from your experience. Take every small failure in life and decide you will use it to your advantage. Knowledge is power and if you try to derive knowledge from everything in life you will be a person of great wealth. Life is a journey and failure is part of that journey; it prepares us for future successes.

Failure is more of a growth pattern than something that should stop you from pursuing what you want. Learning from experiences that don’t go as planned is important because failure is preparation for success

You’ve been failing all your life in small ways but it has prepared you for the future. For example, learning to walk was a series of events that made it possible for you to eventually run. When you were a baby, you learned to roll before you crawled and you learned to crawl before you crept around the furniture and you fell down a few times before you finally learned how to walk. You’ll fall many times before you succeed and walk when it comes to many areas of your life’s journey and sometimes you’ll get a few bruises along the way.

You might not be able to look back at the journey of learning to walk but if you look back at other aspects of your life, you’ll probably be able to find instances where hindsight is now showing you the reason for the failure.

Want to learn more about self-improvement? Bruno LoGreco is a Toronto life coach and mentor. Visit BrunoLoGreco.com and find out how to unleash your potential for success and happiness.

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In today global economy, we must always upgrade ourselves and embrace positive CHANGES. If we don’t do that, we will simply be wiped out by the competitions. In order to survive and remain competitive, CHANGES are unavoidable!

Most people have fear and do not like changes. They are comfortable with what they are, where they are, and they would rather die than change. The comfort zone is a dangerous place to be in, and you may not even realize that you are in it.

Do you feel that you need to embrace change but somehow something is holding you back? You’re afraid of your own ability to face changes. Want to learn how you can overcome your fear of change?

Watch this video…

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I know the New Year is over but it’s certainly not too late to make your resolutions as we’re starting our journey of the year ahead. This article points out some of the reasons why New Year is the perfect time to make your resolutions.

Ever wondered why New Year’s resolutions exist? Some people theorize that New Year’s resolutions began about 4000 years ago, when the ancient Babylonians resolved to return any farming equipment they borrowed during the year to their rightful owners in time for the start of the New Year. The tradition has changed and modern resolutions now regularly include plans to improve our lives.

Resolutions now commonly include quitting smoking, eating better and working out more. Whatever the resolution or the reason they exist, they are definitely part of our culture, and New Year is the perfect time to make a change in our lives. Here’s why:

• You’re in the right frame of mind. New Year’s is the perfect time to make life-changing plans. You’ve just celebrated the end of the old year and are getting ready for the new one. It’s a time of planning and reflection - there is no better time to make a life change than when you are assessing the past and planning for the future.
• You will have the support of friends and family committing to similar goals. The excuse, “everyone else is doing it,” didn’t work as a child, but as an adult you can use it to your advantage. If the collective conscious is one of change and improvement, you can use it to help you succeed. Talk around the office and with friends and family naturally gravitates toward change and improvement this time of year, and that can be extremely motivating. Additionally, simply because everyone else is doing it means you’ll be able to support and motivate each other.
• It’s a good measurement. One year from now you can take a look and celebrate your success. A year is an excellent yardstick. It’s also a comfortable length of time to work with. A year gives you enough time to take on lofty goals from quitting smoking to losing 50 pounds to running a marathon. A year gives you enough time to plan how you’re going to achieve your goals, make mistakes and still come out successful.

After the end of the year, next New Year’s Eve, you can take a look back, celebrate your success, and plan another fantastic and life-improving New Year’s resolution. Create a cycle of success for yourself and invest your time and energy in actively participating in New Year’s resolutions. It’s the perfect time to grab a hold of the reins and improve your life.

The Law of Sowing and Reaping is a universal law and it has been a very important part of every aspects of human life since the dawn of civilization. Every culture and civilization have their own way of describing the law of sowing and reaping.

From the words of GOD in the Bible…

Now the one who receives instruction in the word must share all good things with the one who teaches it. Do not be deceived. God will not be made a fool. For a person will reap what he sows, because the person who sows to his own flesh will reap corruption from the flesh, but the one who sows to the Spirit will reap eternal life from the Spirit. So we must not grow weary in doing good, for in due time we will reap, if we do not give up. (Galatians 6:6-18).

In China there is a bamboo tree, when planted, watered and fertilized, doesn’t show any evidence of growth for the first four years. However, in
the fifth year, the bamboo tree starts to grow and GROW…. In just 6 weeks that follow, the chinese bamboo tree will grow as much as 3 feet per day, it continues to grow until more than 90 feet in height.

Now, did the bamboo tree grow in six weeks or did it take five years to grow?

Our life is often like the bamboo tree. It can be very discouraging if we don’t see the results we want after working hard. But, this is the Law of Sowing and Reaping. In order to achieve something great, it will take a certain period of time and effort. We should understand that to achieve success in whatever we desire, there is a period of waiting and waiting…. There is a season for sowing and a season for reaping, but we do not do both in the same season.

For those who refuse to give up and continue to do things right, for those who are persistent and not get discouraged even nothing happens, rewards will follow. And you will reap what you sow. It’s a universal law that has never been broken!

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Have you ever experienced where you’re at the point of either you win or perish? That’s reaching the point of no return. Of course, there are always the positive and negative sides. If you’re reaching the point where you must succeed and failure isn’t an option, then congratulations! you’re in the positive side.

In life, there is a time we need to put ourselves in a situation of “whatever it takes” to succeed. I mean in a legal way and without hurting other people. It is at this time that you decide to face and overcome every obstacle in your path, push yourself hard and do whatever it takes to achieve the success you have always desired. I strongly believe that all successful individuals at one time in their life experienced the point of no return for success.

Here is a story to illustrate the point of no return for success…

There was once a brave General who was faced with a situation where he must make a drastic decision to insure his success on the battlefield. He was about to send his army on shore to face a powerful enemy, whose men outnumbered his. He loaded his soldiers into boats, and sailed to the enemies on shore. When they reached the shore and after unloading his soldiers, he ordered to burn all the boats. After that he quickly address his soldiers before the battle started, he said, “You see all the boats are now burned. That means we cannot leave these shores alive unless we win the battle! We now have no choice! We either win or perish.” And they WON!

If you’re at the point of no return, don’t be afraid! Focus on success, have the attitude of winning and don’t dwell on the past. Just charge forward with confidence and you will surely see success.

To end this article, here is a beatiful song “Pass the point of no return” from the Phantom of Opera. Enjoy it!

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