Researchers had long discovered that caring and loving physical contacts of people could have positive physiological effects. One study is very interesting… hundreds of adults divided into two groups, one group consisted of people who are married or had long-time partners and another consisted of people who are single.
The group who had partners, were asked to watch a pleasant video for 10 minutes and then hugged each other for few seconds after that. Those participants who are single were asked to rest calmly.
Both group of participants were then asked to talk about something that made them feel upset and stressful recently. As we know, when someone feels stressful, his/her heart rate will increase and blood pressure will rise. The study found that those participants who were single experienced an increase of heart rate by ten beats per minute and twice the rise in blood pressure compared to the other group.
These caring & loving touches or hugs also have positive effects for children and even newborns. In fact, newborns can actually die when deprived from nurturing even if their other physical needs are met.
The heatlh benefits of loving & caring hugs had been proven by science. So why not use them as your health therapy. Make it as your habit to greet your family, friends, and acquaintances with hugs, handshakes, or pats on the back more often.
Watch this inspirational video titled “Free Hugs Campaign.” (only 4 minutes). This video has spread across the Internet like wildfire and inspired millions to consider the changes we can make by simply giving more hugs.
Discover Your Purpose - It’s Easier Than You Think!
by Ada Porat.
“Seems lately I am constantly being reminded of how far I am from living the life I want to live,” said a friend over coffee. “I don’t even know what it is I want or what I’m passionate about. I still haven’t figured out what I’m supposed to do with my life.”
So often, we externalize our purpose as if it is some magic existing outside of ourselves, and if we could only grasp it, our lives would really begin. We think as soon as we figure it out, we’d get that dream job, or we could start our dream business, or we could change the world.
Disagreeing without being disagreeable means acknowledging or validating other person’s point of view first before making your points.
Here are some tips you can use to handle disagreements:
Tip 1: When someone says something that you don’t agree, do NOT say… “you are WRONG!”. Say, “You make some good points. Here are some perspectives we want to consider…”. This validates his/her points before suggesting him/her to look at another point of view.
Tip 2: When making your points, be more specific! Rather than saying… “Everyone knows that information is not true”. Be more specific and say… “I have information from a doctor that we want to consider here”.
Tip 3: Don’t insinuate or imply. Just say what you mean. For example, if someone’s perfume is bothering you, avoid saying… “people should consider others before they put on perfume”. Say… “I am sensitive to your perfume”.
It’s easy to disagree without being disagreeable if you always remember to apply Stephen Covey’s habit #5 “Seek First to Understand: Then to be Understood” in his best-selling book 7 habits of highly effective people. When you cultivate this habit, you will be surprised that people are more open to you. This is because they feel validated and safe expressing their point of view with you. Hope you find these tips are helpful to you.
“NATO = No Action Talk Only” is the term used for people who always do planning but never act on it. You can have the best idea and plan in the world but if you don’t act on it, it becomes useless.
In this post, I will share with you the reasons why people procrastinate. There are basically four reasons why people put off what they’re supposed to do.
1. Fear of Failure - this is perhaps the most common reason that traps many people into never taking action. Since young most of us had been conditioned to find the right answer instead of having the courage to experiment and discover many right answers.
2. Lack of Motivation - this is also one of the most commonly given reason for not acting on something. Most procrastinators believe that if they don’t feel motivated about a task then they should not get started on it. But in many cases, just taking the first step regardless of how small, can often serve as a motivator for further action. So, if you want to do something, get started as soon as you can, don’t wait. Motivation need not be present prior to starting a task.
3. Don’t have the Skill - this is another most basic reasons for procrastination. If you lack the skills to complete certain tasks, it is only natural for you to avoid them. Many people may even have trouble admitting that they don’t have the skill because of ego. Thus procrastinating may seem better than admitting your weakness or learning a new skill.
4. Complacency - being self-satisfied and complacent is another reason that stops people from taking action. In fact complacency can be due to a belief that we don’t have the power to create and influence what we want in our lives. Complacency can be self-damaging as there is no sense of urgency in you to do anything thinking that you’ve got everything you need. It has a debilitating habit that can rob us of achieving success and happiness in life.
So we have looked at some of the most commonly reasons why people procrastinate, now lets examine how to overcome it.
One strategy that is very effective in overcoming procrastination I often use is to “visualize what success looks like and how it feels“. Whatever the task you want to accomplish, picture the outcome and try to feel it rather than the activities needed to get you there. If you can feel good about something, it can serve as an inducement to take action. And always remember NOT to strive for perfection, just focus on the progress.
Want more tips on how to bust procrastination? Then start here.
The law of attraction is based on the premise that our universe is made up of “energy”. From the study of Quantum Physics, we know that atoms are the building blocks of the universe. And every atom consists of energy that vibrates at a certain frequency.
For example, the difference between an atom of lead and an atom of gold is that the atom of lead has energy that is vibrating at a different frequency to the energy of gold. The reason why the same particles of atoms grow together is because they are vibrating at the same frequency.
In fact, every human being is also vibrating energy at a particular frequency. This includes our thoughts and feelings. So if we want to attract the things we want, we also need to send out the vibration of thoughts at the same frequency as the things we want.
What we think determines what we believe; what we believe influences what we choose; what we choose defines what we are; and what we are attracts what we have. This is the basis of “Like attracts Like” and it is the way the law of attraction works.
So how do you apply the law of attraction? Well, the best place to start is with your current thinking process. Remember, everything starts from your thought. So the simplest way to attract what you want is to hold a mental picture of what you desire as long as possible and as often as possible.
In summary, your thoughts are vibrating energy (whether postitive or negative); you can atract anything you want by focusing your thoughts on the very thing you want. Everything else will be taken care of by the law of attraction. Remember, you are what you think you are and what you are attracts what you have.
The scene you notice everyday where people are racing around with their high-tech gadgets while sorting out their daily tasks is becoming very common in today fast-paced world. At times, it seems like our world is whirling out of control. The ongoing and constant demands of works, home, and family responsibilities are just overwhelming. Soon enough, stress will start to creep in and cause great angst in your life. If not dealt with, stress can have a devastating effect on your life.
Here are some ways to relieve stress:
Take a deep breath. You can do this while sitting at your desk at work, breathing exercises can bring you back to a calm state.
Don’t strive for perfection. More often than not, most people with A-type personalities are prime candidates for stress induced symptoms due to their demand for perfection in everything they do. Realize that this is not a perfect world and you aren’t perfect either.
Talk things over. Don’t suppress your problem. Share it with a friend, family or someone at work, listen to what they have to say. The act of talking things over will help you put your problem in perspective.
Get organised. Lack of organisation will cause stress. Click here for a guideline to help you start organizing and stop wasting time.Going outside for some fresh air. Whenever possible, change into your sports wear, go outside and start walking or running for 30 minutes. This will help to release endorphins which relieve stress.
Listen to classical musics. This can help lower your blood pressure and bring calm within you. I love to listen to classical musics while jogging outside.
Watch a funny show. I bought a few Charlie Chaplin’s DVDs the other day. I have seen most of them when I was a kid. It’s always very hilarious watching this great comedy actor. I never get bored watching his show. Just watch for 20 minutes, your stress will disappear.
Stress, if not acted upon, will cause serious health problems. Always strive to learn ways to relieve stress and avoid it at all costs.
Click here now to learn how to conquer stress quickly before it conquers you.
Both group of participants were then asked to talk about something that made them feel upset and stressful recently. As we know, when someone feels stressful, his/her heart rate will increase and blood pressure will rise. The study found that those participants who were single experienced an increase of heart rate by ten beats per minute and twice the rise in blood pressure compared to the other group.
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