Most people when first started out in a relationship would feel like the whole world was belong to them. They would have so many things to talk about, so much fun and so many things in common. So many dreams to share and so many great hopes to expect for the future.
But as time goes by… many of us will start to feel the opposite. That it becomes less things to talk about. Less things in common to share. The relationship seems to become tense and less fun each day. Sounds familiar?
That’s the sign of a relationship that’s not built on a solid foundation!
As your relationship grows, you want to be certain that you’re building a rock-solid foundation on which to base your relationship. Having that solid foundation is key to a long and lasting relationship. Without s strong foundation, your relationship wouldn’t survive the challenges of life.
How can we have a relationship that’s based on rock-solid foundation that will in turn lead to a committed marriage that grows stronger as the years pass?
Unfortunately though, in today’s global economy, many of us are afraid of true commitment. Instead of entering a marriage with the intention to stick around no matter what, many people go into marriage with the idea that, “I can always get a divorce if things don’t work out.”
Building a rock-solid relationship and marriage is a journey. You can’t build it overnight! It involves trust, commitment and respect from both party. When it comes to building a solid relationship, it certainly takes two hands to clap! You and your partner must decide if you guys willing to take the journey together regardless where it may lead to.
Here are some of the stages that couple may go through in building a strong foundation for their relationship:
1. When a couple is deeply in love with each other, each person believes the other is perfect and that their love can withstand any challenges or obstacles that may have come their way. This period is generally known as BLIND LOVE! and won’t last very long. Understand that nobody is perfect!
2. Real relationship begins when you and your partner realize that you guys aren’t that perfect after all. Some adjustments need to be made. At this point, one or both may decide to leave the relationship if you guys aren’t willing to compromise the changes.
3. Reconfirmation. One or both of you may try to reconfirm the relationship. You may turn to friends and family members for advice and try to justify if he or she is the right one for you.
4. Acceptance. Now, if your relationship manages to reach this stage, it would likely to survive the storms of life! Both of you now understand that conflicts and differences can still arise but each one is now more giving and forgiving. At this stage, a couple has learned to compromise and respect the differences and work toward the common goals or dreams.
You see a romantic love itself can not guarantee a solid relationship. The foundation must be built based on commitment, trust and mutual respect. With these elements, your relationship will always be strong.
Hope you’ve learned something useful from this article.
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