Criticism can cut both ways. On one hand, it can improve you but on the other hand, it can also hurt your feeling. Knowing how to deal and accept criticism can be very useful in both your professional and personal lives.
To be able to accept criticism constructively, first you need to know how to differentiate constructive criticism from destructive criticism.
Constructive criticism is intended to improve and make you a better person whereas destructive criticism is used to humiliate you. For example, personal attack is destructive criticism.
When you receive critical comments, whether it’s from your boss, coworkers, family member or friends, take a few minutes to process the information before reacting even if your feelings are hurt. Take a deep breath, and try to figure out why the criticism was delivered.
Even if you think that the criticism is baseless, don’t get defensive or upset, just calmly acknowledge it and leave it at that! You can acknowledge with a response like “I appreciate your inputs” or “You might be right”. There is no point in getting defensive or upset about it. Just treat it as an opinion and it may not be true.
One of the hardest things to do when you’re criticized is to admit that it’s true. You don’t have to be overly apologetic. You can always say, “I’m sorry” or “It’s my mistake” and move on. By admitting fault, you’re taking ownership of the problem and you’re proving that you’re a mature adult.
If you don’t know whether the criticism is true or not, ask the person to provide facts or more information. If it’s your fault, admit it and apologize. Put aside your ego!
If you take criticism to heart, you will feel more hurtful and frustrated, it’s really not worth it. Everyone has different expectations, and a small improvement might be all you need to resolve the criticism.
Always remember that you have a control in your response. You can respond to criticism with anger or calmness. You can use it as motivator to improve yourself. The choice is in your hand.
